I teach all my clients to eventually create their own routines rather than rely on someone else’s protocols.
When you set out to learn a new skill, the old identity resists.
“This is not me.”
“I am not the kind of person who can do this.”
“I have done enough and nothing changed. This is pointless.”
“Other people have something I don’t.”
And then, through the right kind of practice, something changes: your capacity to cope.
Your ability to learn is in direct relationship with your capacity to cope: with failure, resistance, shame, and judgement. Spontaneous expression is what all complex skills have in common. Eventually, we want to learn to create our own practice routines, to move the way our body asks us to move today, — depending on our mood, sleep, and emotional state - rather than follow the same online program, to know how to ride this specific horse, how to talk to this specific person and find the right words in the moment, to find a place for the practice that will create a new behavioral default in your every day, depending on the day, when your life is already full. Especially, when it’s full of the old, persisting, unwanted patterns you have outgrown.
This is why I do not teach hacks or online courses that will take you to mastery if you consume the content from Unit 1 to Unit 25.
Spontaneous speech in a foreign language is one of the most complex human skills. But it is not the only one I have trained.
I practice drawing, movement, strength, acro yoga, tango, running, horse-riding, and other skills that require rewiring the default patterns, attention, coordination, courage, and a willingness to look foolish before the new self arrives.
Every skill required deliberate and well-structured practice routines.
The internal architecture of acquiring complex, non-trivial skills
I teach deep practice, precise feedback, and identity expansion.
I do not collect hobbies. I study how humans learn.